The Self Issue.

Monday, March 13th 2017

The pendulum of our experiences fascinates me. Like the rhythmic pull of tides, if we throw ourselves so deeply into something, eventually we’ll be pulled hard in the other direction. We have a need for balance that’s deeply ingrained. And if last year was one in which an obsession with social media lead to an infatuation with everything external, there’s a beautiful polarity in the movement unfolding all around us, where our gaze has turned inwards to The Self.

Never in our lives have we been so exposed to the world of others. For all of the benefits of community and inspiration, incessant glimpses into a curated highlights reel of someone else’s life inevitably leads to comparison. We've become compelled to make our own everyday match the filtered lens through which we view the world around us. We've learned that the things we love and moments shared aren’t enough, and seek validation through constant feedback from others. Exposed to the extraordinary, we thrive on the need to achieve things beyond ourselves. And a lot of the time it's not even for ourselves.  Romanced by far flung destinations, seduced by advertising and drawn into the stories of others, never before have we been pulled in so many directions away from ourselves.

Finally that voyeuristic bubble seems to have burst. We’re exhausted from trying to keep up. We’ve realized that in our obsession with other, we were depleting ourselves. Polarity has us craving the opposite.  We're questioning just how authentically we are living and if we're really using our time on things that set our hearts on fire. The things that fill us up. 

Inspired by the beauty in this movement, this month’s Style Guide Issue takes a deep dive into the Self; a celebration of living wildly, authentically, and unapologetically you. This month we’re committing to ourselves, motivated by the profound changes we could make to our lives if we used even one day a week replacing the hours spent on social media, and poured it back into our selves. We’re pulling out journals we used to write in, we’re seeking simple pleasures in art and creativity, we’re taking those classes we put off. We’re getting up early to catch the sunrise, to cook a meal from scratch, to learn that second language. We’re pulling ourselves up for using busy as an excuse when we can find hours to trawl mindlessly through social media. This month is about inspiring action. Keeping our promises. Walking our talk. 

There’s nothing we believe with more conviction that than in order to love somebody else, we must first learn to love ourselves. We're deeply inspired by the impact these little commitments to self might have on a larger scale, as they trickle down into the external world. There are all kinds of love we might experience but none more pure, honest, and freeing than the love that unfolds in every part of our lives, and touches everyone that enters our world, when it spills from a cup that is already full. 

Of all the Style guide Issues I’ve worked on, none resonates more powerfully than this one, and I’ve never felt more inspired than being surrounded by the creatives I had the privilege of working with to put this issue together (and the articles to come). From the team at The LANE who dug deep to meet a brief of stripped back, confrontingly real, and openly honest, to the powerful women we interviewed who live life on their terms. Women forging their own paths, who share with us the commitments they’re making this month to honor themselves. We interviewed our favorite writers whose words about self love forever seep into our skin, aesthetically we explored the concept of reflection, using tangible styling pieces like mirrors as abstract references to self. And finally, were humbled that one of our biggest muses Alex Elle, took the time to create a series of wedding vows for us to share with you throughout the month - vows that inspire us to create the kind of love that’s built on a solid foundation of two whole selves.

Karissa x 

Stationery / Calligraphy: Alex, Terrace Press

Style Guide Articles:

Theme: Mirage

Concept Exploration: 5 Creative Entrepreneurs on the Meaning of Self

Expert Interview: Painting with Words: Victoria Erickson

Fashion: The Honeymoon Wardrobe: A Packing Guide

Exploring Inspired Minds: 5 Creative Entrepreneurs on the Meaning of Self

Monday, March 13th 2017

 

When it comes to creative entrepreneurs, we believe it’s those who give most intensely of themselves that tend to find their place, their purpose and their success. The connection is too powerful, too ever-present to be refuted.

As we explore the idea of self, we realize how in awe we are of those who have the courage to expose their depths and their essence through their work. Those whose selves are so enmeshed with what they create, they’re unable to be separated. It’s a level of authenticity that can’t be simulated, and it’s intoxicating to observe.

We selected a group of intensely creative entrepreneurs who we feel embody this concept and asked to take a glimpse into their inner workings. We wanted to know what nourishes and drives these women, whose work and sense of self conjoin rather than collide.

  


Lisa MessengerCollective Hub founder and editor in chief, author and speaker

When do you feel most like yourself?

For me life is about being comfortable with duality. I feel most myself both when I’m living a very big full life running a global multimedia business, being on stage speaking to thousands of people, connecting with our community, coming up with new product lines and doing a multitude of other visionary things associated with the Collective Hub brand. But I feel equally myself when I’m doing the simple things that feed my soul – meditating, cooking great food and sharing it with friends, running on the beach with my dog Benny or doing a yoga class. I believe that to live a really big public life authentically and be 100 per cent on purpose (the extravert side of me), I need to blend that with a really quiet, simple life of re-energising, connecting and nurturing myself (the introvert side of me). It's about being unafraid to do life my own way, on my terms. 

How will you honor yourself throughout March?

I’ve just got back from another 17 days meditating in India, so March for me is about integrating this spiritual way of being into my everyday life in Australia. I think it's important to travel and immerse ourselves in different cultures, but the important thing is to be able to utilise those tools and skills to support us in our everyday existence. I have about eight big speaking gigs in March all over Australia, we are building some big extensions for the Collective Hub brand including masterclasses, education and co-working spaces so I’ll be working on those as well. But I’ll also continue with my spiritual practices and rituals which include a lot of meditation and yoga and me time. This time and space for me gives me the strength to really bring my A-game to my public work.


Samantha WillsSamantha Wills founder and creative director and Samantha Wills Foundation founder

When do you feel most like yourself?

I feel most myself when I am with my best girlfriends. When you surround yourself with good people, they bring out the good in you, and there is something magical and magnetic about being the truest version of yourself. 

How will you honor yourself throughout March?

I have been traveling like crazy the first two months of this year, so I am excited to spend time with my girlfriends in the Napa Valley. I am going to focus on getting back to my exercise regime, and healthy eating. When all these elements align, it feels peaceful and strong within. 


Alexandra ElleAuthor, writer and creative

When do you feel most like yourself?

When I am by myself (the introvert in me all the way) and doing something I love. Alone time has been my saving grace and believe it or not, it really strengthens my connection with my husband.

How will you honor yourself throughout March?

By remembering and honoring my voice.


Bliss LauBliss Lau founder and jewelry designer, Parsons School of Design educator

When do you feel most like yourself?

There are about ten versions of myself that I am now comfortable living in. I love to be a student, a teacher, a partner, a boss, a woman, a creative, a thinker, a giver, a receiver, an introvert - where I am determines which personality arises.

In the last year, I have felt more myself than ever before. In retrospect, I owe this to the 2016 launch of my "Ceremony" collection. Previously, I did not realize I was missing that piece of myself. It is true that I found my place in the world, and it brings comfort to all the other moments.

As a creative person, the journey through my own work continuously challenges my relationship to self. The process of making brings out fear, hope, and so much self-questioning but I believe that is what has helped me grow as an artist. I remember the moment when I finished my first collection of bodychains in 2007 - this was before anyone was making pieces for the body. That moment, I knew regardless of other’s judgements, I was proud of this body of work. That changed my sense of self, because I had birthed an internal sense of satisfaction and strength and therefore reached a new version of self.

How will you honor yourself throughout March?

Through little moments. I brew chai every day over the stove, adding the honey and milk slowly - it takes a while - then I sit an enjoy it. It’s a magical way to start the day. The other is beautiful objects, I am a collector of things, they make me smile, and give me so much joy.

Lately I have also been reading history books about subjects that I am passionate about - biographies of artists and creative people mostly. I love hearing how other people’s journeys were different than my own and how they lived through the challenge of life.

March also marks a very special month for me because I am traveling to Japan for three weeks to do my first artist in residency program. I have not ever taken time away from running my business to just sit with myself, encapsulated in ideas, and take the time to execute them. It will be so wonderful! 


Rosemary Masic – Nevenka founder, creative director and designer

When do you feel most like yourself?

For me, it is very important to feel my way through life and channel my energy in the right direction. I feel most myself when I fully emerge into my creative process. That’s what brings peace and a lightness to my being. I also feel most myself when I nurture and take care of my body – practicing yoga, hanging out in nature, going for walks on the beach (where I live) with my fur baby Stella, or running around The Tan (Royal Botanic Gardens Melbourne) at dusk. Connecting with people that believe in me and my dreams and surrounding myself with beautiful like-minded women. Seeing what impact Nevenka has on their lives, definitely fills me with joy and love and makes me feel that I am on the right path.

How will you honor yourself throughout March?

This March is bringing in a lot of exciting creative projects and will start with a trip to London and Paris for me. I will honor myself by travelling - which always fills my soul and inspires me - and sharing my story and Nevenka with the people I meet and expanding her reach even further.


Christy BairdLoho Bride founder and creative director

When do you feel most like yourself?

When I'm in the store by myself, working with my favorite playlist on (which I'm doing right now!). I think the store is such a reflection of my taste and ideals that it becomes a safe haven. I can collect my thoughts and be surrounded in a place that I created; it's quite emotional at times.

How will you honor yourself throughout March?

By finally giving myself a pat on the back. We've had a record month in LA, and in the past, I would catch myself not allowing myself to feel rewarded. Something always had to be better, stronger, more efficient - without sounding like a Daft Punk song - I've learned to stop and smell the roses. Appreciate hardship, appreciate success, but to know they'll cross one another over and over and over again.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Romance Issue.

Thursday, February 16th 2017

We travel because we need to, because distance and difference are the secret tonic of creativity. When we get home, home is still the same. But something in our mind has been changed, and that changes everything. 

When I look back on 2016, it was a year of foreign travel that spilled with moments that stirred my soul. The nature of a big project last year, (The LANE Man which launches soon!) took me to wildly unexpected places; inside Icelandic Glaciers, to Mayan Ruins and vibrant Mexican towns, a light drenched Californian desert, winter adventures in Wyoming, and road trips through the Swiss Alps. I drew so much from those experiences; the profound beauty of nature and it’s ability to dissolve life’s complexities, rambling conversations with strangers that moved me beyond words, the intoxicating beauty of tiny towns and their aged patina walls washed in pastel tints. I found magic in other people’s mundane, and poetry in human experiences. Travel fuelled me. I was allured by its vibrancy, in love with the way a constant sense of impermanency intensified the need to soak up every moment. I was addicted to the way new surroundings ignited all senses. That beautiful but dizzying world became my new norm for all of last year, and I was convinced there was nothing like travel that could stir the soul.

I found myself obsessed with dreaming up new adventures, excited by the sheer volume of places I’d not yet explored. My fleeting visits back home revolved only around work commitments I couldn’t avoid, I was there because I had to be, I loved the comfort of familiarity for a few days but my gypsy mind would always default back to old ways, a gaze locked on the horizon, fixated on what came next. 

After a year of transience, I landed back in Australia in early January, slowly wrapping my head around needing to stay put for the next 4 months. On a sunrise swim that first morning at home in Sydney, the impact of all that travel hit me hard. The same landscape I’d taken in a hundred times on morning walks was richer in detail, the ocean had an iridescence I hadn’t paid attention to before, the sky was stained a shade of pink that didn’t seem real. I was suddenly viewing my familiar world through a completely new lens. The same romance I found in exploring new destinations, spilled from familiar surroundings. The difference was that this time I was present enough to notice.

I quickly realised that while my passport overflowed with reminders of life changing memories etched in my heart, it was never about the travel. The moments that seeped into my skin were a result of the mindset that travel demands. Travel and its experiences grounded in unfamiliarity, were the perfect alchemy for internal change. Travel taught me a lesson in the importance of presence; one that made me fall deeply in love with all of the little things that had always been right there in front of me. 

As I started working on The Romance Issue, I couldn’t help but find an inextricable link between romance and presence. A belief that romance is hidden everywhere, revealed layer by layer in a myriad of forms when you’re open to seeing it. So rather than focus on romance as being something that’s reliant on another, this month is a celebration of romance that starts with ourselves. The challenge to focus. To look up. To draw on travel’s lessons and extract romance from our every day. To fixate on the detail and beauty of your immediate surroundings. As they are.  In morning light that spills through windows, the simple beauty of fresh flowers, of tiny apartments filled with decadent scents, the experience of live music, the drama of torrential rain, conversations sparked with strangers that shift your headspace, the days that go "wrong" when fate intervenes to change your trajectory. 

Romance is about making time for the things that fill us up in order to be present…getting up an hour early to jump in the ocean at sunrise, watching an old film, leaving your phone off for an entire Sunday to experience the simplicity of uninterrupted and uninfluenced thoughts, scribbling rambling thoughts that make sense to no one but you, creating space and time to just be, exactly as you are, exactly where you are. To realise that romance isn’t something we need to travel to the other side of the world for or work hard to feel, it isn’t always an epic love story, or an exotic overseas adventure, there’s something so profoundly beautiful about the romance thats interlaced with ordinary moments. And the infinite access you have, when you discover that it starts with yourself.

Karissa x

Bracelet: Cartier LOVE

Style Guide Artices:

Theme: Night Swim

Cakes: Eroded Surfaces

Jewelry: Hidden Stones

Bridesmaids: The Blush Edit

Styling: 4 Styling Tips for Simple Table Decor

Photography: Mara Visuals

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