Wedding speeches - for those tasked with the honour it’s often a gig that goes hand in hand with playing a leading role in the wedding itself…and a fairly leading part the life of your friend. With so much to say, and so little time, where do you begin? And how do you possibly encapsulate the breadth of love and shared memories, as well as wishes for their future? As firm subscribers to the wisdom of ‘no one ever really knows the truth and complexity of a relationship except the two people in it’ - extending to friendships just as much as relationships - there's something beautiful in drawing upon this emotional intimacy and selecting a magical (perhaps otherwise unknown) moment to share in your speech…
The Moment You Two Met
Whether it reaches as far back and kindergarten, bonding over the shared crayon colours, or a friendship that blossomed over late nights spent in university bars, each a wing-woman to one another’s quest for a cute boy (!)...the story of how you and your friend met (or favourite earliest memory if it's your sibling) gives a beautiful, often humorous context to your relationship with the bride or groom. Re-live what it was that instinctually drew you to that person - or how maybe you actually didn't like one another initially! Elaborate on whether your friendship is based on uncanny similarities or wild differences and the journey of how you came to know one another (a mutual dislike for a certain teacher, shared camping adventures, a legendary work colleague that covered for you more times than you can ever repay) etc…
The Moment Those Two Met
As he or she no doubt shared with you the moment they met their future spouse, probably soon after it happened, this is a story that everyone loves to hear…and told from the point of view of a third person it offers a gorgeous insight into that moment, layered with the unique memories of your friend recounting the experience, to you. Weave throughout your telling anecdotes of the excitement or nervousness or the palpable love-at-first-sight mood that emanated from your friend, in telling your version of this story. It will be a nuanced version, beautifully coloured with your own observations memories, never before heard exactly like that, and appreciated by all.
What You Love About Them Most
Colour for guests the unique world that you two share, and examples of just why they are such a special human in your life, and you, in theirs. A moment that illustrates what an incredible individual they are. It could be as simple as a memorable, random act of kindness or an extraordinary (no questions asked) favour, selflessly delivered. It could be a moment where they were there for you, or how you know that they are always there for you, and that you can call upon them for anything at all, at any time, however significant or silly (like that time they came and collected you in the middle of the night when you locked yourself out of your house while sleepwalking - in your pyjamas).
A Shared Memory You Will Never Forget
Draw upon those instinctual memories and moments, those ones that bubble to the surface whenever you think about this person. Tales of misadventure and travel, of being rescued or separated from one another. A moment in which you felt particularly loved and grateful for their presence in your life, the happiness you felt in the moment they told you they were engaged. Select something that resonates deeply so that you can tell it effortlessly, with conviction.
Observations of Their Love
Think about the changes that you have observed in your friend or sibling since they met this significant other…the way they light up when they talk about them, the beautiful things that he does for her or she does for him, how when they are around this other person they are undoubtedly the best version of themselves or the happiest and freest you have ever seen them. Share an anecdote that illustrates this, that you’ve observed in action, a moment in which you knew without a doubt that they were the one for them.
Just Remember To…
Keep it succinct- if the story is long, reduce it to the most crucial details and to its most magical version!
Keep it suitable - this is not an open mic in which to tell inappropriate stories from your shared past, no matter how hilarious. See our comprehensive guide to Speech Faux Pas for further guidance here.
Keep it relevant for everyone - A ‘secret magical moment’ is not the same as a private joke. Ask yourself, is it only funny, interesting, poignant or beautiful if ‘you had to be there’…? If yes to any of those, pick a different memory.